@mrsconstancehall

class="content__text" Again I’m reading headlines about a man with a “no filter” podcast who claims he would leave his wife if she “let herself go” after childbirth. Id like to introduce this podcaster to the crazy concept of love. True love, the kind of love that the only reason you would leave is if you believe they will be better, happier, live a more enriched life without you. The day I met my lover he was a long haired tattooed surfer, the sexiest man I’d met, I fell in love with him. The day I married him I was beautiful, everything he dreamed of and he loved me. A year later I would lie in bed, covered in baby. Vomit and breast milk, painfully lifting my hips so he could change my bloody maternity undies and check on my weeping C section scar while on the phone to my doctor.. and he loved me. 2 years after that while my lover was in a coma with a metal rod drilled into his skull, I pushed aside the tears and allowed the nurses to show me how to change his nappy. I loved him. And I look back at videos of his vacant post coma face with shock, because in my memory, when I was there, all I saw was beautiful him, as I dragged him back to reality. I loved him. And today, we laugh through weight gain and bald patches, these things couldn’t come close to making either of us want to sacrifice this beautiful mess of a relationship. I have been so blessed in this life. Because the idea of spending it with someone that I could leave because of some weight or any other physical change that we will all no doubt experience, makes me feel very lonely and sad. I hope your wife does let her self go. Let go of the pressure of knowing that on top of all the stressful things that happen in life and parenthood, her biggest critic is lying where her biggest fan is supposed to be. And I mean it when I say, I do hope you get to experience the incredible joy that loving and being loved can bring you one day. I just really hope that in the meantime you shut the fuck up and leave your wife’s body out of your own insecurities.

January 24, 2023